It’s been assessed today that I am stupid, selfish, heartless and self-serving. I’ve also been told I need to shut the deleted swear word up, because I have health insurance. Good thing I don’t get my selfesteem from Facebook.
Scripture has a lot of answers on handling conflict, and being agreeable even when we disagree. My brain came up empty in the heat of the moment. I didn’t stay calm and pray, because frankly my prayers of “forgive them for they know not how stupid I think they sound right now,” probably would not have risen past my ceiling. So I removed my hurt feelings and insulted self from the entire conversation by deleting all my comments.
Seems the best thing to do. The last time I lost my temper with someone, I was put in commenter’s purgatory for six months (true and embarrassing story).
Having said that, What do you do when you are passionate about something and it’s obvious the other person just isn’t going to agree with you. Do you listen or tell them to shut up? Have you ever been told to just shut up? How did you handle it?
4 thoughts on “Let’s talk about it: Oh Just Shut up”
I know me too. Jeff and I are trying to figure out how to get a copy of it. I’m sure their is a simple websight to go to for copies of senate bills… I just don’t know what it is.
For me its fact and personal perspective. Its what I see from what I read that I comment on, such as my post on the Christian getting arrested for praying in public. When we see the whole picture we can form a better opinon on the topic. I don’t even know what half of the health care bill is about because I’ve heard so much on both sides about it my mind is plain mush.
They were gloating and bashing Republicans. I interjected — big mistake — I’m not a personal editor. This whole healthcare deal is ripping people apart.
First thing I do is to assess the goal of their rant. Are they just giving me information or are they trying to convince me to get on their side? If they are giving information, great…I will give them mine right back. If they are insisting that there are two ways to see the issue (their way and the wrong way) I don’t say much more than a frequent, “That’s an interesting way to look at it.”. I have been known to tell someone “when you want to discuss instead of preach, I’ll talk with you.” That comment usually will shut their broo-ha-ha down to at least a minor riot, but at that point, I have heard enough preaching and I just walk away. (by that point, they have interrupted me when I was trying to state my opinion or facts.) After they calm down, they can come to me and listen. If they interrupt me once, that is the end of the conversation because they are so “blinded” by their opinions, they can not consider that someone else may have one that differs. Prov 18:2 and 23:9.