Could not have said it better myself. Worth the read you guys. I especially like the quote by Rebecca West.


 Today, at breakfast, my sister labelled me a “feminist.” My whole family now refuses to talk to me for more than 30 seconds, and acts as though I have an incurable, highly contagious disease. FML #20129490

It’s amazing how feminism is treated like a disease. Feminist is such a dirty word that it reduces women into mumbling the following key phrases:

I’m not a feminist, but…

…Not that I’m a feminist or anything…

anytime they say something that could remotely be interpreted as *gasp* a belief that women should be just as valued as men. It’s almost like a magic spell (you know, ‘cuz feminists are witches).

 Myths Debunked

So I want to take a little bit of time to debunk some of these myths. I’m not going to do it by addressing each myth one by one. I’m going to do it in as few words as possible:

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  1. Echoes — thank you for adding to the conversation. I think you are right, the loss of a social group can be very challenging, it is very important to move on in some situations and find our own tribes. Very nice to meet you.


  2. Thanks so much for reblogging! I’m glad that you enjoyed it! I could write a book about this, so it was hard to keep it short and sweet! I am also happy to label myself a feminist (I don’t think it should be a “price!”) because it means standing up for equality! =) Thanks again!!!


    • You are welcome. I really thought my readers would enjoy this one. At least most. For me there is a price. Many women in my tradition believe that women should not work outside of the home at all. I violently disagree with that claim. Many in my tradition treat women as work horses and slaves (hence my proverbs 31 martyr comment) — not all, nor is that the official stand of my tradition but it does exist among a lot of men especially some clergy. Many believe women should be seen and not heard. Again I disagree. My tradition won’t even allow a woman to be president of our colleges because that would put her in authority over a man and that “would be wrong” which leads me to believe if they don’t have equality in employment then they probably don’t educate equally either so I no longer support those colleges. I believe women should be allowed to teach and even preach the gospel,again my tradition does not – Speaking out comes at a price — the loss of long time friends and the ability to work in my tradition. I’m okay with that today as I’ve found new friends and new work. Rightfully or wrongfully, it’s still a sticker price.


      • Yes, that is very very true. The loss of social network can be very isolating and challenging. I, too, have had to pay that price. It’s been so long I just hadn’t really registered it as such any more! I think it’s because I, too, moved on and built a new space for myself and have surrounded myself with others who are supportive. And, people who fight against oppression, endure lots and lots of stress. That, too, is a price!


  3. So glad you reposted this. So many myths and stero-types about feminists are slung around by differnt groups. The greater point is not name call or sterotype – but empower everyone to use their God-given talents.


    • Exactly. I really like the points she made — non-feminist women (proverbs 31 martyrs as I call them) are in my experience meaner to men than so called feminists. I like men — good men — a lot and I think I treat them with respect. I’ve been labeled a feminist by many in my tradition right now, and I’ve learned to accept it. Standing up for what is right and true always comes with a price. Glad you liked the article Susan. Thanks for commenting.


      • Few more thoughts, Deana (this is a great topic) – my husband was attracted to me because I knew calculus.
        And as for Proverbs 31 – the ideal wife – a careful reading shows she was into the business of the day (real estate, markets) and politics (known at the gates.) So my take is a virtuous wife not only see that her family is take care of but is a business woman and has a hand in politics.


    • Susan — this is in reply to the calculus comment below. I think that’s awesome. There are many traditions and people that have a more open interpretation of Prov 31. Holly Wagner comes to mind as does Christine Cain. I agree, the woman in that story was very involved in her community, in the workplace and in the world. The bible is also full of examples of amazing women who did great things — I hate it when people use the word feminist as if it were a cuss word. It isn’t. Not by a long shot. Not all traditions oppress women – granted those that are in my opinion, don’t feel that way and that’s fine too. Life is about choices.


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